Dating Women – Why Bi Guys Is So Safer to Date?
How many of us have met with some sort of resistance when it came to trying to approach and date women? It’s amazing that we would have so much trouble meeting and attracting women. We often come up short and have to settle for other things. So how do we improve our chances in this area and approach women without rejection?
There were times when I felt like I had to look very carefully at whether or not a girl was worth my time. There was always that one thing that told me that she wasn’t going to be the one. There was something about her that I just knew that I didn’t want to spend any time with. I still remember what it was and it still brings back sad memories. Let me explain.
When I was dating women, I was just too self-conscious to even consider that I may not be good enough for them. If they said no to me at least once it didn’t bother me. But if I was ever going to consider dating women again it would have to be a process that I felt was going to take a lot longer than it had to take me.
Once I became aware of my inability to approach and date women, it was time to put a stop to it. I started reading more about bisexual dating and I also developed a clearer understanding of what it involved. It turned out that I was a bisexual man with a distorted view of gender roles. I needed to put some clarity into the way that I thought about my sexuality and to become a better, more viable dating man.
The biggest problem was that I was seeing the issues from the perspective of a gay man. That meant that my understanding of bisexuality was limited. I had to develop my own understandings of the issues that bisexuals face. This is something that many queers struggle with, especially if we are not out in public and our sexuality is hidden behind a particular social identity. There is so much to learn about gender and sexual orientation in the context of online dating for a bisexual man. Online dating is really just a new tool that helps us explore our queerness.
It helped me understand that dating women was not the same as dating men. Men can be quite clueless when it comes to knowing what it feels like to date a woman. Most of them might try to pass off a straight female as a bi girl, but in fact what they really like is a straight male. You could be thinking that I’m taking too much of everything into consideration when I say that I really like my bi girlfriend, but that’s not true. Sometimes I think that being bi might make me sound less of a man!
Another issue that I must address when I am talking to other bi guys about dating women is the issue of emotional safety. What I mean by this is that, on the dating women’s forums that I frequent, it’s quite common for people to talk about the danger of sleeping with a woman who is bi. This can be a real problem because one could assume that these women would have the same level of emotional safety that the big guys do.
The thing that I have noticed in all the dating forums is that the more straight women that are posting, the more I see that they are giving advice on dating men that are bi. The one thing that they all seem to agree on is that, no matter how safe you think your relationship might be, it’s never worth risking getting involved with someone who isn’t bi. Just because you’ve had one or two dates with a bi woman doesn’t mean that you are safe, and one thing that a lot of the straight women seem to be forgetting is that they are dealing with feelings and emotions here, and those feelings and emotions can run very deep.